Wake Those Sleeping Giants — Rediscover Your Dreams
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Last week, we discussed one of the great opportunities that our age presents: We can discard old rules—the “shoulds” and “shouldn’ts” from our pasts. We can lose the messages that have been handed down to us from others, messages that we have internalized and used to guide us on our life’s path. Not all of those messages were bad. Some of them may have had merit. But none were not of our choosing. Now we can make the choice.
While there is much to say for the paths we have traveled thus far, some of us may be feeling the pull to take a different road. We want to feel inspired, to follow the dreams and passions that have lain dormant while we were busy taking care of other people’s needs.
What Made Me Think I Could Write a “How-to”?
But what if we don’t know what those sleeping giants are? What if our dreams and passions are mysteries even to us? Last week, I promised that I would write about how to rediscover those dreams. And about how to gain the courage to take those first steps into the unknown. While I was typing these very words, I suddenly realized what made writing this week’s post so difficult! Those are huge promises! What made me think that I’d be able to write a “how-to” on how to find what we really want in life? The pressure was on. After all, I would never want to steer anyone in the “wrong” direction! I put quotation marks around the word “wrong” because:- The word is just so judgmental, and
- There really is no “wrong” direction.
Just MOVE! You Can Always Change Course

Send Your Message to the Universe!
The act of taking even a small step outside of the proverbial box is a win. By taking that step, you have sent a message to the Universe that you are ready—ready to take your life into your own hands, to learn from your mistakes, and grow stronger because of them. Which brings me to the Tarot. (You’ll see the connection in a minute.) The Tarot has been a part of my life for the last twenty-odd years. I keep several decks by my bedside, but recently, they have not been doing much more than collecting dust. Just this week, however—the timing, I’m convinced, is no coincidence—I’ve begun picking one card each day. I meditate on it and write out the meanings it holds for me. Some mornings, when I’m looking for specific guidance from the day’s card, I will ask a question before I shuffle the deck. This morning, I asked for help with the blog, and this is the card I picked: Ace of Pentacles.The Earth Element and New Beginnings

Inner Wealth
The pentacle in the center of the card is a powerful symbol of wealth. Right now, we are talking about wealth in all areas, not necessarily financial (although that certainly wouldn’t hurt)! The Ace of Pentacles represents the wealth inside of us, the strength, the power, and the notion that we are enough—more than enough—just as we are right now! Once we embrace that FACT, embrace our enough-ness, we will no longer need to struggle but can begin anew. By choosing to see “obstacles” as teaching tools, we can develop the faith to trust our own answers. We must only listen to the voice within us, no matter how small, and then enlist the courage to act upon it.Barbara Sher’s Wishcraft
Which brings me to a wonderful book written quite some time ago by Barbara Sher: Wishcraft. Thank you, Ms. Scher! You have written a clear and powerful “how-to” on rediscovering your dreams and making them come true! https://smile.amazon.com/Wishcraft-How-What-Really-Want/dp/0345465180/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1549382051&sr=1-1&keywords=wishcraft+barbara+sher Ms. Sher speaks from experience! When she got divorced, she found herself in New York, “penniless, with two kids to support and a B.A. in anthropology.” She was on welfare for a while and then found a job—that she loved—and started two businesses and wrote her long-cherished books (she’s written several) that help others rediscover what they truly love. Has Sher herself “self-improved?” In a word, “NO!” She goes to great lengths to let her readers know that her books are not typical of the self-improvement genre. Here’s a section from the introduction of Wishcraft: “I know what I’m talking about when I say this book is different. I wrote it for people like me—people who were born without any of the virtues that made Horatio Alger great and who have given up all hope of ever developing them. Can you persevere? I can’t. There is no diet of any kind, physical, emotional, or financial, that I haven’t fallen off by Wednesday if I started it on Monday. Self-discipline? I jogged once—I think it was about four years ago… As a well-meaning but tactless friend once said to me, “Barbara, if you can make it, anyone can. And I did.” As you can see, Ms. Sher is wise—and funny! This is serious stuff, but no need to lose our sense of humor!Two Books in One
Wishcraft is divided into two sections: the wish section and the one on craft. The craft section shows you how to manifest dreams through planning and managing those get-in-the-way feelings—like fear, fear, fear … and, of course, fear. She stresses the need for support—none of us can go it alone—and besides, why would we want to? But it’s the first section, the Wishing section, that was most powerful for me. Let’s face it, with our life experience, once we our goals are clear, we usually can make them happen. When we can’t, or more accurately, we don’t, there’s usually something else going on. Maybe the goals we’ve set are not truly from the heart but from the head (or someone else’s heart or head). Maybe our dreams feel too silly or unrealistic to take seriously or share with anyone. Ms. Sher is here to tell you that there are no dreams too silly or unrealistic. (Stick around until the end of the post, and you will never again think any of your goals are unrealistic—I promise!) Here’s what Ms. Sher has to say about wishing: “Unlike the skills for bringing dreams into actuality, which are nuts-and-bolts skills like engineering or carpentry, wishing doesn’t have to be learned. It’s inborn in human beings the way flying is in a bird.” “But,” she adds, “it’s very likely that something does have to be taken away: the spellbinding cultural curse that says, “It can’t be done,” and the heavy weight of discouragement you may be carrying if you’ve tried for your dreams before and failed.”Our Dream-Crushing Language

What Do You Love?
Wishcraft is full of great exercises that take us back to the days when we were free to explore our interests and loves (for some of us, that’s way back) and exercises that spur our imaginations. One of the first in the book (and one of the best in my opinion), is the “who do you think you are?” exercise. When Sher asks it, when she guides you through its several steps, she really wants to know—and wants to help you discover the answer too. “Who you are” is not what first comes to mind, surprisingly. To answer the question, you must go deep—beyond your roles and traits. You must reach into the depths of what you love.“What Is It You Plan to Do?”
Which brings me to Mary Oliver, one of my very favorite poets, who died recently—this past January 17th. Oliver had a way, as great poets do, of getting to the core of things, of cutting to the heart. One of her most famous poems is called “The Summer Day.” https://www.loc.gov/poetry/180/133.html The most famous lines from that poem are in the form of a question, a question she posed to her readers and that I now pose to you:“Tell me, what is it you plan to do
With your one wild and precious life?”
Indeed. Now … I did promise to share with you something that would remove the “too unrealistic, too silly” judgments you may have about your own dreams. Here goes!
Until next week, my brave and powerful friends! Dream on!
Diane

Hi Diane,
I find it interesting that we are both writing and thinking about the gifts we can’t explain. I am always fascinated when you share your work with Tarot cards. I
I love the picture you used to prepare us for next week! I can’t wait!
Those are the best gifts, aren’t they?
Next week will be fun!!
You are certainly adding to my life! I’m off around town to find Tarot cards and a Mary Oliver poetry book, and I’m off to amazon to look over Wishcraft. Great blog, my friend!
Thanks Greta! I am so glad to hear that I’m adding a bit to your life! And so glad that you’re going to check out Tarot cards (I recommend either a Rider-Waite or Hanson Roberts deck.) As for the great Ms. Oliver, any book will do! And you never can go wrong with Wishcraft! Have fun shopping!!