I’ve mentioned in a recent blog post  that I’d been experiencing some heightened anxiety. Nothing too intense but enough to make me wish it would just go away! I also mentioned, though, how important it is to sit with all of our feelings, no matter how uncomfortable that makes us. Pushing them away—or trying to—often…

March 25 was my father’s birthday. He would have been 99! Schaje Fuhrer (you can call him by his nickname—Isi) was a kind, gentle person, with a round tummy and a hearty laugh. Dad had a wonderful sense of humor, loved being a father, and was a feminist—back in the day. He also was a…

I pick a Tarot card every day for guidance and inspiration. One day last week, I picked The Sun from my go-to deck, the Hanson-Roberts. It’s a lovely card–naked baby on a horse riding under a huge sun and bright blue skies. I wanted so much to feel that warmth, the happiness, the smiley, innocent…

When I read my friend Nicky Mendenhall’s December 4th blog post, I knew I had to ask her permission to repost it on WomanPause. I am grateful she said yes. We talk a lot about fear on WomanPause. I often borrow the title of that oldie-but-goodie book Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway and…

This week, I’m veering away from my scheduled blog post. Usually on the third Monday of the month, you’d see an interview on these pages. And I have a really terrific interview ready to go! Yet, given the horrifying events of the last two weeks, I feel the need to share my feelings about where…

So … just 4 days ago, a difficult year for the world, our country, our cities, towns, our families has finally been put to bed … and, in its place, another year born.   January 1, 2021 couldn’t have come a moment too soon!!!   This time of year, for me, has always been one…

I rarely put up guest posts–in fact, since WomanPause’s inception, there’s only been one. But when I read Sherry Danner’s post on her website, I immediately reached out. Judgement. A loaded word. And Sherry handles all the implications with such great care, humor … and wisdom. I’ll let her take over from here. Thank you,…

It will be November 2, 2020 when this blog posts. One day before possibly the most important election of our lives. Many of us have already voted by mail, by drop box, by early in-person voting. Some of us have made phone calls, rung doorbells, asked anyone and everyone about their plans to register and…

We’ve all been having some difficult conversations lately. And between COVID, the divisiveness in our country,  the fires raging in CA and in our hearts, it’s hard not to feel anxious and depressed.   This week’s newsletter may not seem uplifting—at least on the surface. This week, I’m writing about trauma.   Trauma is possibly…

Hate. Anger. Violence. I don’t know about you, but when I hear, see, smell any of these, my fear index flies off the charts. Whether it be physical, verbal, or emotional—hate, anger, and violence trigger me–deeply. That’s when the fight or flight reflex kicks in. I most often choose flight. Or I freeze and shut…