Diane Gottlieb writes open-hearted stories about people in pain who choose to grow.

Leaving Antioch And Taking With Me All I’ve Learned

UCLA’s Royce Hall

It’s that time of year—graduation season. When you hear the word graduate what comes to mind? An eighteen-year-old going off to college in the fall? A college grad starting out in “the real world?” (Anybody besides me think of a young Dustin Hoffman and Katherine Ross—not to mention the incomparable Mrs. Robinson, Anne Bancroft?)

Whatever image appears when you hear the word “graduate,” it is probably not a 58-year-old woman in a cap and gown. But this past Sunday, June 23, 2019, this 58-year-old was that woman.

I wore a green gown made from recycled plastic (it was an Antioch University graduation in CA, after all!) with a brown-trimmed hood. Walking across the stage in UCLA’s Royce Hall, along with my Azure cohort, was the one of the happiest walks I ever took. Wearing what I call my repurposed Sprite bottle, I graduated from Antioch University with an MFA in Creative Writing and a concentration in creative nonfiction. I am grateful for the journey and so very proud of my hard work and accomplishments (grateful and ambitious—Wolfpack rule #2 https://dianegottlieb.com/women-wolves-and-wambach/).

I am thrilled that at 58, I can say that I have a whole new life ahead of me.

My Gut Did Not Steer Me Wrong.

Proud Antioch MFA Graduates

What a journey these past two years have been. My first step on the path was initiated by my dear friend and coach Michael Frontier, who told me during a phone conversation shortly after the ’16 election that I needed to write. I hung up the phone and went immediately to my laptop, googled MFA programs and found Antioch, a low-residency program in Los Angeles with a social justice focus. I downloaded the application, wrote my admissions essays, sent the package off to admissions and received my acceptance phone call a few months later. Antioch was the only school I applied to—it just felt right. My gut did not steer me wrong.

Low residency allowed me to keep my business afloat while going to school. I went to LA for 10 days, twice a year (what could be bad about that?) while churning out pages each month for my wonderful mentors with whom I communicated online. Reading and writing and writing and reading and two years later I have one book about one-third of the way done, have had several short pieces published, and began my beloved blog, WomanPause, which has connected me to so many wonderful women and has kept me up on news and trends and ideas and possibilities for women entering or well into the ages of freedom.

That’s How I See Ages 50 And Over. Full Of Possibility And Freedom.

Sure there are constraints—sometimes financial, sometimes medical, sometimes family. But most of us who’ve had kids are seeing our nests empty. We mamma birds cannot be afraid to unravel those lovely nests and build some other beautiful and fulfilling space for ourselves in the world.

Diane Gottlieb “Author” Felt Real

During the ten days before graduation, I attended my last residency in Culver City.

This, the first residency with Victoria Chang at the helm (she recently named the chair of Antioch University’s creative writing department) was my very favorite. On the first night, Friday night, I read a short chapter of my not-yet-finished book about formerly incarcerated men to an audience of my peers, MFA faculty, and guest authors. Two other graduating students, Gabriella Emmet Souza and Jasper Henderson read their work too.

I had read with my peers before but never on the same stage with accomplished, published authors. “Opening” for faculty member Tananarive Due, who read from her powerful work in progress, and Maggie Smith, who read several of her poems, including “Good Bones” https://www.poetryfoundation.org/poems/89897/good-bones, was an amazing, empowering experience.

Diane Gottlieb “author” felt real. What I’ve been working on felt important. And yes. Writing is what I am meant to do. My life until now has led me here, and I am going to ride this baby for as long as I am able.

I’m In Awe Of All The Readers And Speakers

Ana Maria Spagna and me

On another night I heard Blas Falconer, a poet who is all heart, read poems about his children and the scariness of living in a world with hate; R.O. Kwon read from her best-selling novel The Incendiaries. Lilliam Rivera, Ingrid Rojas Contreras, Chris Feliciano Arnold and Jaswinder Bolina read from their current works, as did Isha Sesay, whose forthcoming book Under the Tamarind Tree tells the story of the Nigerian schoolgirls who were abducted by Boko Haram.

Each of these readers also gave wonderful, inspiring seminars about craft. I took lots of notes and am still reeling from it all.

During the residency, I also listened to my peers read their work and present their craft talks. It was wonderful to witness everyone’s growth over these two years.

And, I had the great honor and pleasure of introducing my dear mentor and wonderful writer Ana Maria Spagna, whose feedback of my work and whose own essays and books have taught and inspired me beyond measure. This is the piece she read that night: “The Lawns, So Well-Tended”  https://www.terrain.org/2019/nonfiction/the-lawns-so-well-tended/

If you have a bit of time, please read it. Her language is gorgeous, her ideas critical for our time.

Gabby Rivera—My New Shero

Gabby Rivera

One of my very favorite, most inspiring moments of the residency was the talk (and reading) given by a Gabby Rivera, a 36 year-old self-described Queer Latinx Culture Nerd—and the first Latina to be asked to write for Marvel comics http://gabbyrivera.com/

Rivera uses language to reach young people who “look like me” and who are hungry to be represented in literature. “Most things that I’ve experienced in my life were not created with me in mind—not a school, not a hospital, not the police—but I have language,” Rivera said.

“Language alone can disrupt white supremacist narratives; images alone can disrupt it.” Rivera gave the example of the Captain America comics, which were created by two Jewish men, Jack Kirby and Joe Simon, during World War II. On the cover of the first issue, Captain America punches Hitler in the face. Rivera sees this as “a moment that raised consciousness,” a moment when words and images on the page made a huge difference in the world.

“You have the right to forge your own path, crack yourself open—go discover yourself,” Rivera urged us. “But don’t forget to hold yourself accountable. Doing the work means taking inventory. Stare every decision you’ve made in the face and own each one. You are powerful enough to evolve. That’s where the magic is, and that’s where you find your light.”

Rivera fills her stories with what she calls “love notes for queer kids of color.” Our culture’s heroes come from other peoples’ images. You don’t have to accept those images, but if you don’t, Rivera cautions, “you have to make your own.”

Grandmothers Rule!

Gabby Rivera and me

Rivera spoke about her grandmothers—her abuelas. She has the utmost respect for their strength, their power. I spoke to her after her seminar and told her that her message is not just for youth but for older women as well. I mentioned WomanPause, and she loved the idea! “My abuelas, they’re the most formidable,” she said. “That’s why my grandmas are so important to me.”

And … Always …Always Follow Your Dreams

I’ve written before about feeling the sadness of graduating. I still carry a touch of that. I will miss people and the special community that Antioch provides. But it is up to us to build community wherever we are. It can be in our towns, cities, online. I will continue to take workshops and maybe even lead a few! The future is wide open.

I cannot leave this page without thanking Steven, whose support was a great gift. I thank my kids, my friends, my cohort and mentors, and I thank my WomanPause readers.

This post was more personal than most. But I think the message is universal: If I could do it, so can you. Follow those dreams!

On that note, I’d like to end with a quote from Sarah Manguso. I didn’t mentioned her above, but she was also a visiting faculty author this residency and one of the highlights. Manguso read from her acclaimed book 300 Arguments. I’d like to share one of them with you: “I wish I could ask the future whether I should give up or keep trying. Then again, what if trying, even in the face of certain failure, feels as good as accomplishing? What if it’s even better?”

“What If It’s Even Better?”

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Have A Wonderful Week, Everyone, And See You Next Friday!





  1. Denise Polis on June 29, 2019 at 12:48 pm

    Congratulation Diane! You are so inspiring!

    • Diane Gottlieb on June 29, 2019 at 2:31 pm

      Thanks so much Denise!

  2. Sarah haas on June 28, 2019 at 6:42 pm

    How wonderful, Diane. I remember hearing you read at a brown bag during my first residency, back in December 2018. It was one of those humbling moments in which, seeing a woman stand in her skin and speak from what could only be the most genuine voice, I thought of all the ways there was left for me to grow and learn. I so admire what you read this time, too. You are telling such important stories. Congratulations on graduation and I can’t wait to see what’s ahead for you.

    • Diane Gottlieb on June 28, 2019 at 6:48 pm

      Thank you so very much Sarah for those beautiful words. I can’t tell you how much they mean to me. Looking forward to what’s ahead for you too! XO

  3. Nicky Mendenhall on June 28, 2019 at 5:17 pm

    I loved reading about your journey to an MFA. Thank you for sharing with us. Very inspiring.

    As for being a Grandma, I love it! I think this will make me sound ancient but today in the mail was an invitation to my oldest granddaughter’s wedding! I love her husband-to-be! It will be a grand occasion and I’m looking forward to it.

    • Diane Gottlieb on June 28, 2019 at 5:50 pm

      Thanks, Nicky! My whole program was inspiring!
      I LOVE that you received an invitation to you granddaughter’s wedding today! It will be a grand occasion–so much to look forward to and so much to celebrate!!

  4. Sherry Danner on June 28, 2019 at 2:17 pm

    Congratulations, Diane! I loved reading about your accomplishment and thinking about my own graduation next year 🙂 Women over 50 rock – and we have so much to do so we better get on it!

    • Diane Gottlieb on June 28, 2019 at 3:59 pm

      Thanks, Sherry! Excited for you! We do rock–and we are getting on with it! Woohoo!!!

  5. Marion Pierce on June 28, 2019 at 12:06 pm

    Love your story Diane. You took us on your two year Antioch journey. I feel your enthusiasm, motivation and pride. A gigantic congratulation to one of the strongest, most brave, and lovely person I know. It’s an honor to call you my friend. You surely are destined to continue being a joy and source of inspiration to so many others you meet along your path!

    • Diane Gottlieb on June 28, 2019 at 3:58 pm

      Awww, Marion, thanks so much! We have been through a lot together–isn’t it wonderful to be right where we are right now? I am honored to call you friend, too, my dear. XO

  6. Lynne Rosenthal on June 28, 2019 at 11:32 am

    Congratulations Diane!!! So Happy for you!!! ❤️Lynne ( not a recent graduate but a recent Grandma!!)

    • Diane Gottlieb on June 28, 2019 at 11:54 am

      Thank you, Lynne! Congrats your way too! So wonderful to hear from you–enjoy your grandbaby!!

      • Clare on June 29, 2019 at 4:56 pm

        Congratulations! I really enjoyed reading about this journey you have been on.

        • Diane Gottlieb on June 29, 2019 at 5:10 pm

          Thanks, Clare!!!

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